Kindness – Breakaway Consciousness

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“Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
– Peter Drucker

Emotional Bank Accounts: Mutual Investments | #Kindness | #Friends | #Friendship | #Positivity | #GoodVibes | #MotivationalMondays

“Do things for people. Not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.”
– Harold S. Kushner

“We rise by lifting others.”
– Robert Ingersoll

Kindness
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Zy Marquiez
April 15, 2019

This post follows another one in the ‘Emotional Bank Account’ series that is called ‘Account Closures’. In that blog post I vented my frustration about a particular worker somewhere who retaliated against one employee because they couldn’t retaliate against the person they wanted to. At the time of writing that blog post, I didn’t think I would write a ‘follow up’ per se, as each of these posts its meant to stand on its own. That said, given certain circumstances at times an individual must go where the winds of life takes them, and this is why there’s going to be a fortuitous and unplanned follow up.

A few days ago I had the fortunate circumstance of running into a few friends, all of that know about the particular issue that took place that day. Long story short, there are nigh five employees (with possibly more to act), one former employee and three customers who are bandying together to vouch for the credibly of the person that was fired as well as pointing out other significant issues.

This entire coalescence of interests was unplanned given that each of us were partaking in our acts to attempt to lend aid to this person. Once we found out our interests dovetailed, it was natural to band together.

Where this entire situation goes, it is uncertain. That said, that’s not the main point of this write up. The main point is that it’s great to see acquaintances and friends ‘mutually investing’ into someone else in a significant way. This is the type of instance that really gives you hope as a human being.

One more thing: I just found out (as I was writing this) that yesterday someone else almost got fired unfairly. Thankfully that person was not. That said, that person would have turned into a veritable storm (and rightly so) not standing for it. Where that circumstance goes, it is to early to know. It’s still something everyone’s keeping note of given everything taking place and how fluid the situation is.

Bottom line: it’s great to be able to take actions for someone that needs help, but its even better to have many people do it in conjunction with each other.

Hopefully it makes a difference. But even if it doesn’t, its still the right thing to do at least.

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Zy Marquiez is an avid book reviewer, inquirer, an open-minded skeptic, yogi, and freelance writer who aims at empowering individuals while also studying and regularly mirroring subjects like Consciousness, Education, Creativity, The Individual, Ancient History & Ancient Civilizations, Forbidden Archaeology, Big Pharma, Alternative Health, Space, Geoengineering, Social Engineering, Propaganda, and much more.

#Quote Of The Day | #Kindness | #Goodness | #QualityOfConsciousness

“We rise by lifting others.”

#Quote Of The Day – #Kindness | #Goodness | #MondayMotivation | #MotivationalMondays

“Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.”
– Harold S. Kushner

Emotional Bank Accounts: Anonymous Donations | #Kindness | #Positivity | #PositiveVibes

“Kindness is a gift everyone can afford to give.”
– Unknown

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”
– Mark Twain

Kindness

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Zy Marquiez
April 14, 2019

The human element is an intriguing thing. You will have people that know you for a very long time that take you for granted, and there’s people you know for minutes and start doing the most random and amazing things for you. These circumstances that revolve around people you don’t know is what we’ll call an anonymous donation.

Through a confluence of circumstances in person as well as online two days ago I had a few people randomly send me messages or drop comments when I least expected; I was appreciative of this act of kindness and let them know. I don’t know any of these folks at this moment, and that’s the point, they are anonymous in the true sense of the word.

Sometimes the most minute of gestures is all one needs to go from merely beginning to sink (mentally, emotionally, psychological, et al) to having an act of kindness act as a buoy to keeps you floating among the tides.

One thing is someone you know doing something nice for you, and that you can totally understand. In fact, days ago my friend was having a really bad day due to a divorce and so on, and our other friend that’s like a sister wrote a note for him that was very thoughtful. When you’re going through incredibly tough times like my friend is, kindness goes a very long way, and oft-times it doesn’t take a lot of effort.

Having someone you know do something for you, anything, is incredibly in my opinion. It should be appreciated every time and twice on Sundays.

But when people you don’t know do something random for you? That’s one of those things that life is all about.

Kindness knows no bounds.

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Emotional Bank Accounts: Account Closures | #Friendship | #Friends | #Loyalty | #Mindfulness | #Life

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Zy Marquiez
April 13, 2019

Today I found out that one of my friends got fired from somewhere. That’s never a good thing. However, when that is done in retaliation of what someone else did, then I have a really big problem with it as a human being, regardless if I know the person or not. I think most people would feel the same way.

The person that carried out the retaliation is known me, though to say we’re friends would be a stretch. In any case, there’s not a lot of things that would get me to ‘close’ an emotional bank account but picking on people is essentially one of them. Am I angry? No. Do I hate this person? No, not at all. I haven’t been angry or hateful of anyone in a really long time, many years in fact. Poker helped me conquer those emotions and I consider myself lucky since it helped me deal with things kind of on-the-spot given how poker is merciless in poking at stick at you and testing you. That said, there’s only person I would say I actually ever hated, and this person really earned it. In fact, I told them right to their face, which I never thought I would do to anyone but it happened nonetheless.

In any case, the vanguard point is that the main emotion that envelops me is a storm of searing frustration; an ocean of frustrating that is never ending.

While the parameters for how one individual deals with another is different from person to person, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to think that most individuals do have that proverbial line that shouldn’t be crossed. What that line is for everyone else, I know not. What I do know is that when that line is crossed, then that’s the end of that.

I won’t be unkind to this person, even though deep down inside I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to bury this person upside down in my front yard and use them as my next Christmas tree just as a start. Irrespective of that though, my heart screams mindfulness-mindfulness-mindfulness even as my ego disagrees.

It’s just better to drain that ocean of gasoline before a spark ignites it because it’s just not worth it.

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Emotional Bank Accounts: Gold & Silver Vs. Cash | #Friendship | #Friendship #Kindness | #Love | #QualityOfConsciosuness | #PositiveVibes #Positivity

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Zy Marquiez
April 11, 2019

Deposits and withdraws within emotional bank accounts have varying degrees.

Just as there’s a difference between the precious metals gold and silver when compared to cash (federal reserve notes), there’s a significant difference between normal every-day acts of kindness and more significant ones.

Gold and Silver are tangible assets. Cash is merely federal reserve notes. The main difference is that the former asset is tangible, while the latter is merely the facsimile of it. In the same way that gold and silver vis a vis cash are on separate levels, some normal every-day acts individuals undertake for people juxtaposed with more significant acts are on separate tiers.

For instance, saying hello to someone, smiling, opening a door for someone, doing a small favor, are all actions that contribute positively to an individual’s emotional bank account. However, these acts are not the same as someone changing your tire, helping you move, someone baling you out of trouble, doing a big favor, lending an ear in a time of need, etc. It’s clear these examples rank differently across the spectrum [1]. How noteworthy an action is, along with how much a person appreciates the act dictate how significant that act is as an emotional deposit.

The point is that relationships build upon trust, actions, time, history and other factors, and those factors outline the parameters of why we hold certain friends in higher standards than others. That’s why one could argue there’s a difference between people being friends, good friends, great friends and best friends. Another argument could be made that, as one goes up in tiers, one ‘kind of’ expects (I say this loosely) each higher tier to do more than the lower, IF it all possible [2].

For instance, would you expect a total stranger to do you a small favor? Maybe, maybe not. But would you expect a friend to do so? Probably most of the time. Equally, would you expect a random friend or acquaintance to drop everything if something significant happened like a family member was in the hospital? Maybe. But would you expect one of your best friends to do so if you asked? More than likely.

In no way am I saying that anybody needs to do anything, simply that there’s a certain expectancy in friendship based on the circumstances and issues we individuals face. It’s simply people having your ‘back’ so to speak.

Each type of emotional deposit, each type action, builds trust and loyalty. These factors build relationships, and further solidify what they ultimate become among the above discussed tiers of friendship.

While that might not seem like a big deal, it is incredibly paramount, for society runs on arguably trust more than anything.

You trust your deposits to be safe in your bank, you trust your food to be safe, you trust your children to be safe in school, you trust media is telling you the truth, and so on. Every single one of us has a level of trust that is inherent in nigh every interaction we undertake, and yet, paradoxically, trust is nigh never discussed in every day topics. Ruminate upon that deeply for it has a bearing on how society operates.

As trust between individuals grows, a healthy relationship follows, relationships of myriad types. And the level of trust between each of these relationships dictates what you expect and what you do not. That said, everyone is different, and that’s one of the spices of life, variety.

No matter what type of outlook or expectancy an individual has on friendships, there is a significant difference between one act and another, whatever those acts may be.

And just like there are rocks, crystals, gems, diamonds and black pearls in nature, there are individuals that mirror each of those, and with good reason, because that difference matters. If it didn’t, there wouldn’t be a distinction between strangers and family, between friends and best friends.

That distinction is what life is about: quality human beings [3].

For quality human beings were, are, and always will be a cut above the rest.

No amount of cash, gold, or silver in the world can top that.

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[1] An individual’s spectrum under which actions ping on an emotional bank account varies, and sometimes considerably. My hopes in the above example was simply to note that, even though each individual values different actions differently, there is a point where some actions are of smaller significance when compared to others.

[2] I say ‘kind of’ because what people expect from friendships vary given an individual’s point of view, culture, society, philosophy, spirituality, age, sex, life experience and so on.

[3] Quality human being doesn’t imply perfection of any individual, far from it. It just means the assemblage of acts an individual undertakes over the course of a lifetime that ultimately end up echoing who you are over the long term.

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